This blog
is taken from a talk I gave recently at a youth event that we run at for the
young people at King’s Church. It is about Joy and how there is greater joy to
be found in God. This is, in my opinion, the most important idea if you are to
live a fruitful life as a Christian.
What is joy?
Some of us
may read or hear that word ‘joy’ and think that it is just a good ‘Christian’
word. You might be at a prayer meeting and someone prays, “Lord
thank you for Joy.” And some ‘super-spiritual’ people will go, “mmmm. Amen.”
But
actually what does it really mean?
The
dictionary would tell us that joy is to be happy or excessively pleased. But I think that as Christians, we can
know a joy that is deeper routed than a feeling of happiness.
What does
the bible say about joy? John 15: 9-11. Jesus is telling his disciples about
how they will bear fruit, once he is gone.
9 “As the Father has loved
me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. 10 If you keep my commands, you will remain in my
love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love.
11 I have told you this
so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.
Read verse
11 again.
This idea
of God’s joy is frequently mentioned throughout the Old and New Testaments.
Some of them are
- Psalm 16:11, “In your presence is fullness of joy, and at your right hand are pleasures forever”
- Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart”
- 1 Peter 1:8, “Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and are filled with joy unspeakable and full of glory”
- Philippians 4:4, “Rejoice in the Lord always! And again I say, Rejoice!”
God is Joy! Joy is at
the heart of God’s plan for us, and is at the heart of God himself. We will
never understand the significance of Joy in human life until we understand its
importance to God.
What does joy look like?
I can give
you a couple of examples of what Godly joy looks like in people today. Terry
Virgo, the founder of New Frontiers, the worldwide group of churches that
King’s is apart of, was speaking at a conference in Brighton.
Afterwards,
he invited anyone who wanted to make a commitment to Jesus, to come to the
front and they were going to pray that they were baptised with the Holy Spirit
and be filled with the Spirit for the first time.
A man
called Simon Holley came and stood at the front, at this time Simon Holley is
the leader of Kings Arms Church
in Bedford,
which is a fantastic, spirit filled church. Simon speaks all around the country
and has seen many signs and wonders.
When asked,
why are you going to the front, Simon responds, ‘are you kidding? Terry Virgo
is going to pray for people to be filled with the Spirit. I don’t care that I
have been filled before; I want to be filled again! That is a man who is filled with the Joy of God, and keeps going back
for more.
Another
example, are the kind of Christians that are living in the Muslim world, either
as missionaries or people who are converted from Islam.
The work of
organisations such as Frontiers, OMF and others is that we are seeing people
becoming Christians in places that have never heard the gospel before.
In the
Muslim world you hear stories of becoming being born again and immediately facing
persecution. They face rejection from their families, and in many cases put
themselves in mortal danger.
The only
way they can maintain their faith, can maintain their life as a Christian is
that they understand there is greater joy to be found in God than in the
troubled world they are living at that time.
Why is it important?
I said at the
beginning that this is, in my opinion, the most important thing, if you are to
live a fruitful life as a Christian.
The bible
puts Joy in the non-optional category. Joy is a command! Subsequently,
joylessness is a serious sin and something that religious people are
particularly prone to indulge in. The love and Joy of God has to be at your
core, and all action flows from that core.
There are
many things in the Christian life that we feel we have to do. But acting out of obligation is not what we are called
to do. Not lying because we aren’t supposed to, not getting into that
relationship because we are not allowed to, etc. My friends, hatefully
submitting to Christian rules achieves nothing. It isn’t glorifying God and it
certainly isn’t joyful.
I am
getting married next year and my fiancé and I are asking married couples for
advice, so that we know can learn from their experience in marriage. If we talk
to a couple who have been married for 20 years and it turns out that they
actually hate each other. They can’t stand one another, and the only reason
they are together is that they don’t believe in divorce. I am not going to turn
to Cathie, my fiancé, and say, that is what I want for us when we get married.
In a
similar way, if you don’t find Joy in God, if you don’t enjoy your relationship
with God, how can you ever expect to encourage someone else to follow your
example and become a Christian!
I feel this
strongly, because it is something that when I was your age I never truly
understood. I became a Christian when I was about 16 and spent two years trying
my best to be a good Christian.
Then as I
got a bit older I started going to parties that were different. Drinking,
smoking and sex are activities that appear very fun and look extremely
tempting. The thought that the Christian life was boring, was clear in my mind. At this point in my life, I went to
university and went completely off the rails.
All of this
was because I didn’t understand that there was a greater joy in God than in the
temptations of this world. But there is!
You see,
the problem with all of the worldly pleasures is that they leave you feeling
rough. They provide a brief, temporary thrill and then when that goes you feel
worse than when you started. Drinking gives you a hangover, smoking has all
sorts of health risks and indulging in sexual sin and one night stands leaves
you feeling empty like nothing else can.
I want you
to picture that you are in a desert, dying of thirst and looking for water. You
come across a big lake of toilet water. What is going to happen? You are going
to drink it!
This lake
of toilet water is like worldly pleasures, because you will be sustained
initially, but then you will get sick. However, if you didn’t have any other
option, despite being sick you would have to go back to this stinking
disgusting lake.
Similarly
with me, even though my hangovers were getting worse, I kept getting drunk. It
came to a point where one night I was so drunk that I slipped on a bathroom
floor and landed neck first on a sheet of metal and almost died.
It was soon
after this that I discovered that worldly pleasures are no match for God’s plan
for us. The joy that you can find in God is like a stream of fresh water next
to that foul smelly lake. This water is refreshing, healthy and life giving and
will sustain you.
Now next to
the fresh water, how does the lake full of toilet water look? It no longer
looks appealing! Similarly if you live in the Joy of God and focus on the fact
that have eternal life with him, then worldly pleasures, ones that make you
sick, no longer seem appealing.
If you
focus on enjoying God, then you want to experience more of it. You want to grow
in it, and that is when good works and leading a good lifestyle happen. If you
find that there is greater joy in God. Then you no longer have to lead a life
of hateful, religious submitting and obedience, but a life where joy in God is
at your centre and all you do is a response to that.
How can we be more joyful?
Now I want
to finish with a few things that I have found crucial in increasing the joy in
my life.
1.
Pursue joy now
Growing up
we all think that joy will come someday when conditions change.
We go to
school and we think life will get better, once we have finished this term.
Anyone think that?
Or we will
be able to find joy once we have finished are exams and we get to the summer
holidays. Or when we go up a year at school?When you get older you think, life
will get better once you have left home, then you think you will be happy when
you get a girlfriend or boyfriend and get married. When you are married you
think life will be more joyful once you have children, and then once you are
tired all the time with kids you think you will be happy when they leave, then
you realise that you were happier whilst they still lived at home.
Before you
realise it you are old and you have had a joyless life!
Stop! Pursue joy now! This is God’s day. It is the
day that God made, a day that Christ’s death on the cross has redeemed.
2.
Find a joy mentor
You should identify those people around you who give you joy
and bring out the best in you. A joy mentor you could call them. We all have
people around us who don’t, and it is not that we should abandon these
friendships, but if you are spending time with them, look to spend at least
that amount of time with your joy mentors.
All of my friends at university are non-Christian, and
although I genuinely love them and now that I have left university I miss them a
lot, I cannot say that they brought out the joy in me, certainly not Godly joy.
In my final year, once God had got me back on the right track, I found friends
who did bring the best out of me.
I am still close with my non-Christian friends, but I like
to think that I have found a balance.
3.
Worship/Prayer
When we
tell other people about being a Christian we can say we believe in a relational
God and that we can have a relationship with him today. If that is the case then we should live it!
Good
relationships are built on communication. Cathie, my fiancé, lives 30 miles
away and we don’t get to see each much more than once every two weeks, but we
talk every day on the phone.
When life
gets tough, we need to know that we can fall back on God in prayer. In Acts 16,
Paul and Silas are imprisoned because they were living as Christians. When in
prison, the lowest of lows, it tells us that they were praying and singing
hymns of praise to God. As a result there was an earthquake and the prison
doors flew open.
Your
prayers should build your joy in God. So often you hear people praying in a
tone that screams boredom, just as if they are going through the motions.
How do you
imagine Paul and Silas were praying that night in prison?
To be Christian, means to be in Christ, in his
perfection. In this perfection we can have a relationship with the living God
who is perfect love and Joy. Be happy about it!